Micromanagement, like so many other things, is something we see those around us do, but we never do it ourselves, of course. Or so it seems to us. We only see ourselves commenting on things that really matter, and we are only helping.
On the receiving end, people – including our children, students, family and friends – hear us correcting their choice of words, use of their time, and which lane they choose to drive in. And the message seems crystal clear: “I do not think you are capable of doing this simple thing properly.”
And this lack of trust is corrosive, particularly when it becomes a habit or pattern of behaviour. No one feels better when they are underestimated.
Luckily, I don’t have to worry about any of this, because I am perfect. You, on the other hand, were you really planning on wearing that today? Really?